Who’s Image Are We Created In?
April 10, 2009 at 10:00 pm | In Church, healing | 7 CommentsI’ve had a few posts that I’ve kept up for days now, rereading and pondering them.
It started with Jeremy, at A Mending Shift. He put up a post entitled “The Wounded Image of God. He talks about the wounds that women have received within the church.
Jeff continued the theme with an post and apology, entitled “Why the Heart of Every Man Should Be Breaking.“
Go read them, please.
I really think this is the kind of thing we need to see to have healing within the church. I was touched, and impressed by these two men and their hearts. I think that the more men who come to this point, the more of a difference we will see in the church.
This is an area I’ve been very damaged in myself, and I know others who have been as well. It is a very deep wound, and needs to be healed. There are times I realize how very deep the damage goes, and I wonder if I will every be able to “be myself.”
Are you still here? You can come back and comment if you want to, but you have to go read it first to know what I’m talking about.
Jeremy, and Jeff, please accept my deepest thanks for writing about this.
Not an obligation…. an invitation
December 26, 2008 at 8:44 pm | In Church, fear, journaling | 13 CommentsTags: Church, God, Jesus, ministry
This has been echoing in my head for a few days now. It is in regards to something specific that God is asking me to do, yes… but when I was whining about it (whining? Not me… ok, yes, me) I heard these words whispered…
It is not an obligation, Heidi…. it is an invitation. An invitation into relationships, restoration and renewal.
Meaning, I don’t HAVE to! (woo hoo) I really don’t. What a relief. There is nothing worse than feeling forced into something.
But if I choose not to, I’ll miss something special.
Hmmmm… suddenly curiosity begins to wage a battle to find out what that something special is.
Sometimes Love Is “No.”
December 18, 2008 at 4:16 pm | In Church, church dropouts, clb, depression, friendship, marriage, spiritual abuse | 11 CommentsTags: abuse, Bible, Christian, Church, clb, friendship, Jesus, love, marraige, relationships, spiritual abuse
Molly wrote an amazing post called “Letters to an Abused Soul: When Love Is “No.” Here is an excerpt.
In fact, what do you do when you realize you’ve been conned, regularly, repeatedly, by someone who is literally a mastermind at manipulating? When years of your life were spent being lied to, being twisted, being played? When you thought you were giving your all to something that was living and good, and really your energies and your love and your spirit were being sucked down into a black hole that would never be satisfied, that could never get enough, that would always want more until it finally sucked out the last bit of life you had.
And when, because of your own warped view of what it means to be loving and gracious—perhaps even a view that would be perfectly healthy if you were dealing with a healthy spouse or a healthy church or a healthy friend—you knew that something was wrong, something didn’t feel right, yet, because you thought that love never stopped giving, you let it happen again, and then again, and then again, until it became so normal that you forgot it wasn’t.
I think you get away from that spouse or that church or that friend.
This post did me in. Hit me right in the gut. I literally have a stomach ache now. It brought up a lot of pain I’d thought was behind me, but it is timely because I have a friend in an abusive situation right now, and I’m going to pass this along to her.
Go read the rest of the article, and feel free to come back here and discuss it if you would like to.
Blessings,
HW
Loving Acceptance
September 9, 2008 at 9:58 am | In Church | 13 CommentsTags: acceptance, Christian, Jesus, love
Why is it so difficult to love and accept people for who they are?
I understand that my approval cannot always be given for someones actions, but it seems that we often hold back our acceptance in order to ensure someone knows we don’t approve of them (ie. their lifestyle, dress, speech, etc.).
Is this really what we are supposed to be doing? Withholding love from those who don’t behave as we want them to?
Like it or not, this is a common technique among Christians. We show our disapproval, and we withdraw our acceptance and love, until the person we are upset with either ‘comes into line’ or leaves. It is no wonder many of us feel we must “act” a certain way in order to be accepted within a body of believers. This behavior management technique only works “skin-deep.” The people we are manipulating may begin to behave better, but their hearts are left unchanged.
Isn’t it possible to love and accept people even when we don’t approve of them?
What are your thoughts?
we grow and learn
August 23, 2008 at 2:57 pm | In Church, fraud, healing, pastors, spiritual abuse | 1 CommentTags: Charasmatic, Church, Dutch Sheets, Healer, Hillsong, Jesus, Lakeland, Mike Guglielmucci, spiritual abuse, todd bentley
(UPDATED AGAIN, see links at bottom) I was really surprised at the attention my post received about Mike Guglielmucci a few days ago. I shouldn’t be surprised at the impact Mike’s deception, and the Lakeland/Todd Bentley fall have had on people. After all, we personally survived the abuse of our church (CLB) some years ago, and when the pastor fell, we were nearly destroyed. Since then we’ve learned not to put our faith in “men.” Lots of people are hurting, angry, and betrayed, and it will take them time to work through these things. I pray that in the end they will be stronger in their faith, completely healed of this betrayal, and able to seperate “people” from God. And, although it doesn’t make me very popular, I also continue to pray for the healing and restoration of these two men who are suffering very publicly.
As far as the “Charismatic Church” goes, I do feel we are learning and growing, even though it is a painful time for many. Here is a response by Dutch Sheets to the situation surrounding Todd Bentley, Lakeland, and the Apostolic Team. This gives me hope that we may see more transparency and growth come from this than I would have thought.
The news continues to pour in about Mike Guglielmucci’s fraudulent claims of having cancer. The stories of people sending money to him based on the lies are heartbreaking. No wonder people feel so betrayed and manipulated. It is difficult for everyone to find out they’ve been tricked so completely and for so long by a pastor. A Christian.
The “Aidelade Now” news site has a recent article about this, and the video of his song, “Healer” on it, which cannot be found on You Tube anymore.
Two news stories. One quotes Mike, and one quotes his father.
When one part of the body hurts…
August 3, 2008 at 9:12 pm | In Church, ramblings | 14 CommentsTags: Bible, Body-of-Christ, Church, God, Jesus, scripture, suffering
I’ve been doing a lot of thinking about the scripture that talks about when one part of the body suffers, the whole body suffers (read it below). I’ve tried to understand that, but too often is seems that we are left to hurt alone, and the rest of the body doesn’t often notice.
Because of the scripture, it must be true that we do all hurt together, but it seems that ofen we don’t notice it. It is like being paralyzed. When a paralyzed person injures a part of their body that is affected, they don’t feel it. They might not even notice it. When we aren’t paralyzed and we merely stub a toe, we feel it!
I had a friend with bad knees who had undergone many surgeries. The nerves around his knees no longer felt pain and he would often rest a hot cup of coffee on his leg and not realize it had burned him. He had several circular scars from this happening. His body had become injured, and he never realized it until he saw the wounds. However, looking at the wounds didn’t cause him pain either, except to know that he had to put some ointment on them, and perhaps a bandaid to cover them. They were a rather distasteful to him, as were the scars from his surgery, so he would generally wear long pants to keep them hidden.
I’m concerned that we don’t feel it when a part of the body of Christ hurts. What is our reaction? Do we gaze upon the wounds without emotion? Perhaps we try and put a bandaid on it, cover it so we don’t need to look at it, and pretend it isn’t there.
Just something I’m mulling over. Feel free to jump in with discussion.
1 Corinthians 12: 14-26
Now the body is not made up of one part but of many. If the foot should say, “Because I am not a hand, I do not belong to the body,” it would not for that reason cease to be part of the body. And if the ear should say, “Because I am not an eye, I do not belong to the body,” it would not for that reason cease to be part of the body. f the whole body were an eye, where would the sense of hearing be? If the whole body were an ear, where would the sense of smell be? But in fact God has arranged the parts in the body, every one of them, just as he wanted them to be. If they were all one part, where would the body be? As it is, there are many parts, but one body.
The eye cannot say to the hand, “I don’t need you!” And the head cannot say to the feet, “I don’t need you!” On the contrary, those parts of the body that seem to be weaker are indispensable, and the parts that we think are less honorable we treat with special honor. And the parts that are unpresentable are treated with special modesty, while our presentable parts need no special treatment. But God has combined the members of the body and has given greater honor to the parts that lacked it, so that there should be no division in the body, but that its parts should have equal concern for each other. If one part suffers, every part suffers with it; if one part is honored, every part rejoices with it.
Derek Webb: Wedding Dress
July 11, 2008 at 11:22 am | In Church | 4 CommentsTags: Christian, Church, Derek Webb, Jesus, wedding dress
I found this song on Chad’s site. I added the lyrics because I had to read them after listening. The song uses the word whore, so if this is offensive to you, please don’t listen.
Derek Webb (CD Title: She Must & Shall Go Free)
Wedding Dress
Lyrics: If you could love me as a wife
and for my wedding gift, your life
Should that be all I’d ever need
or is there more I’m looking for
and should I read between the lines
and look for blessings in disguise
To make me handsome, rich, and wise
Is that really what you want
I am a whore I do confess
But I put you on just like a wedding dress
and I run down the aisle
and I run down the aisle
I?m a prodigal with no way home
but I put you on just like a ring of gold
and I run down the aisle to you
So could you love this bastard child
Though I don’t trust you to provide
With one hand in a pot of gold
and with the other in your side
I am so easily satisfied
by the call of lovers so less wild
That I would take a little cash
Over your very flesh and blood
Because money cannot buy
a husband’s jealous eye
When you have knowingly deceived his wife
You can learn the story behind the song here.
listen to podcast 12.
do super-christians exsist?
May 29, 2008 at 7:24 am | In Church | 12 CommentsTags: Christian, Jesus, Steve Brown
Do we have others up on pedestals?
I don’t know about you, but at this point in my life I’m looking for the “real people.” But in the past, I have put those who seem to be extra-strong, or extra-spiritual, up on pedestals. And you know what? They always fell off! It was rather frustrating… not to mention hurtful, to see the ones that I looked at as larger than life fall off their chair, oft times broken to pieces. Funny enough in my case, it wasn’t the falling off that hurt me… it was the scrabbling and posturing, looking for ways to cover up their failings and put the righteous mask back on at any cost that did the damage. Apparently not only I had them on the pedestal, they had themselves on one.
It is hard to be free when we are constantly comparing ourselves to an unattainable standard. Perfection. And worse yet, when we believe others HAVE attained such a lofty perch, we become despondent, knowing that we shall never reach that divine standing in our own humanity. So we build a throne of pretense, and it is just a matter of time before we come crashing down. Or worse…perhaps we never crash, at least not publicly, and our entire life is just a role we play.
(( Jeff McQuilkin at Losing My Religion wrote a great post on Superhero Christianity. You can read it here.))
I’ve been listening to Steve Brown’s series on Scandalous Freedom. Last night I listened to a section about putting people on pedestals, and he made this statement:
There are no super-Christians, and if you found one, you’ve diminished yourself. When you have demeaned yourself that way, you’ll find yourself in a prison of shame and guilt and impossible expectations. The false idol of super-christians has destroyed the freedom of those who aren’t. -Steve Brown
Just thought that was interesting….
Holy Spirit breaking out… Lakeland, Florida
April 29, 2008 at 10:57 am | In Church, healing | 5 CommentsTags: Florida, healing, Holy Spirit, Lakeland, miracles, Morningstar, revival, Rick Joyner, todd bentley
We’ve heard about the Lakeland, Florida healing revival (you can watch on www.ignitedchurch.com ) with Todd Bentley. I believe GodTV is still showing it also! I just heard this morning that you can tune into Morning Star for what is happening there as well. Any other reports of things going on?
I’m excited about what is happening, and I’m praying that it happens right here where I am as well.
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