I’ve been doing a lot of thinking about the scripture that talks about when one part of the body suffers, the whole body suffers (read it below). I’ve tried to understand that, but too often is seems that we are left to hurt alone, and the rest of the body doesn’t often notice.
Because of the scripture, it must be true that we do all hurt together, but it seems that ofen we don’t notice it. It is like being paralyzed. When a paralyzed person injures a part of their body that is affected, they don’t feel it. They might not even notice it. When we aren’t paralyzed and we merely stub a toe, we feel it!
I had a friend with bad knees who had undergone many surgeries. The nerves around his knees no longer felt pain and he would often rest a hot cup of coffee on his leg and not realize it had burned him. He had several circular scars from this happening. His body had become injured, and he never realized it until he saw the wounds. However, looking at the wounds didn’t cause him pain either, except to know that he had to put some ointment on them, and perhaps a bandaid to cover them. They were a rather distasteful to him, as were the scars from his surgery, so he would generally wear long pants to keep them hidden.
I’m concerned that we don’t feel it when a part of the body of Christ hurts. What is our reaction? Do we gaze upon the wounds without emotion? Perhaps we try and put a bandaid on it, cover it so we don’t need to look at it, and pretend it isn’t there.
Just something I’m mulling over. Feel free to jump in with discussion.
1 Corinthians 12: 14-26
Now the body is not made up of one part but of many. If the foot should say, “Because I am not a hand, I do not belong to the body,” it would not for that reason cease to be part of the body. And if the ear should say, “Because I am not an eye, I do not belong to the body,” it would not for that reason cease to be part of the body. f the whole body were an eye, where would the sense of hearing be? If the whole body were an ear, where would the sense of smell be? But in fact God has arranged the parts in the body, every one of them, just as he wanted them to be. If they were all one part, where would the body be? As it is, there are many parts, but one body.
The eye cannot say to the hand, “I don’t need you!” And the head cannot say to the feet, “I don’t need you!” On the contrary, those parts of the body that seem to be weaker are indispensable, and the parts that we think are less honorable we treat with special honor. And the parts that are unpresentable are treated with special modesty, while our presentable parts need no special treatment. But God has combined the members of the body and has given greater honor to the parts that lacked it, so that there should be no division in the body, but that its parts should have equal concern for each other. If one part suffers, every part suffers with it; if one part is honored, every part rejoices with it.

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Persecutions of Christians can come in many forms and in different places. You do not have to be in Africa to suffer persecution, it happens right here on your doorstep. There are many precious Christians here in the United Kingdom that have suffered at the hands of their countrymen, and also at their local churches, – - – - – More At Site Billy
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Comment by cornishevangelist — August 4, 2008 @ 1:45 am
These verses have been speaking strongly to be lately – I am convinced the deeper we love those within our communities, their pain becomes a part of that love we share.In fact I can’t see how it can’t. When my wife hurts for example, that hurt is felt by me. The sort of love I am talking about would be difficult to have in a large fellowship because the relationships can’t form to be the fertilizer in those agape encounters.
Comment by Mark R — August 4, 2008 @ 3:08 am
Very thought provoking…you know I have had this on my heart alot lately..wondering how we have become so desensitized and so careless with our words within the community of believers…I pray about this, as I know on the recieving end it hurts, and God does help me to forgive, and to love, but in my circles,,,it seems that I am strange for that..We so need the unity of believers, and I think that is what HE is doing right here on the internet..love you girl, and yes I did hurt for you as you began your grieving process.
Comment by darla — August 4, 2008 @ 7:18 am
Billy:
Yes, there is persecution happening everywhere. Thank you for calling that to attention!
Mark:
It is difficult to have those types of relationship in a large fellowship, unless the church is very aware of, and determined to foster relationships. The only way I know for it to be even possible is for small home groups to meet and form families within the larger body. I’ve seen it work well, and I’ve seen it fail miserably.
Darla:
Thanks for giving your input and wisdom to this. Yes, it is amazing the unity that can happen here on the internet. And the relationships formed can be fantastic. Do you think it is because we get to know someone’s heart first without all the other stuff getting in the way? And thank you for being there for the grieving process. I know that several on-line friends have really supported me, and it is wonderful.
Comment by HW — August 4, 2008 @ 9:14 am
Hey, Heidi!!
I think it’s like your friend who can’t feel the scars. A healthy body would feel the pain but not one that is so severely damaged it can’t feel anymore. I think the “church” is damaged and we don’t really know what it is to feel each other’s pain and reach out to help in response.
Finding a healthy well-balanced church is a challenge.
You’re still in my prayers.
Comment by Michelle — August 4, 2008 @ 11:05 pm
Michelle, hey girlfriend! I think you are right, that we just don’t know what it is like to feel another’s pain.
I told a friend a few days ago that I’m not looking for a church that will just ‘feed’ me. I’m looking for a community. A family.
Comment by HW — August 5, 2008 @ 7:16 pm
Oooh, good thoughts! I agree with most of the commentors that the church often justifies neglecting its members by being super “seeker-friendly” and concerned with increasing numbers and connecting with strangers. I believe when the outside community observes a church properly nurturing its members, they will be attracted anyway. I also want to present the other side of the case, however, and especially since I’m a ministry leader and often face criticism toward my own church about how it handles the burdens and issues of its membership. I have found that those who are the most vocal and, honestly – whiney – about being neglected are those who simply don’t speak up about their needs or who are inconsistent about their participation with their local body. I get very fed up with members who do a lot of finger-pointing at the church and do not take inventory of their own failure to get help and be available for help when it is needed. A body knows its members are in pain because there is some sort of communication of this pain. Perhaps the members of the church should realize their own responsibility to speak up about their needs.
Comment by theepiphany — August 6, 2008 @ 2:07 pm
epiphany: Thanks for commenting! I’m glad you brought up the flip-side of the topic! I was just talking with a friend the other day who was so upset at a church for not helping her friend who goes there. So I asked, did she tell them that she needed them? Well.. no. They should just know! Um…it just doesn’t work that way.
And I’ve met more than one person who is just angry that nobody helps others, but they aren’t helping either… just complaining about it. I’ve mentioned to a few along the line that perhaps God isn’t telling “them” to do it, perhaps he is telling “you.”
Sometimes our expectations are unrealistic… thinking that the church should come and magically make everything better, and when they don’t, or can’t, we become angry and bitter.
Comment by HW — August 6, 2008 @ 6:17 pm
Your last sentence didn’t just hit the nail on the head, Heidi…
…you just built a whole house.
WOW!!!
Comment by TheNorEaster — August 6, 2008 @ 11:48 pm
Which sentence? In the comments? I like to be able to see both sides of a picture. Generally the truth doesn’t lie in the extremes, but somewhere in the middle.
Comment by HW — August 7, 2008 @ 9:22 am
Hi Heidi, I’ve just come over from Michelle’s blog, and really like your site
. The questions in this post have really got me thinking too
. I wonder whether one reason we as the Church may not be engaged more with one another’s struggles, is the feeling of being in survival mode. Being kept so busy by our own struggles that we are limited in how attentive we are to some of struggles around us. A possibility maybe. I love how Jesus asks us to bear each other’s burdens though, and the grace He is able to give to sustain us, and to allow us to reach out too. God bless
Comment by Birgit — August 7, 2008 @ 4:00 pm
Birgit, thanks for stopping in and joining the discussion! I think you are on to something. I know that for us, especially with 4 kids, we are often in survival mode. I know I’ve overlooked many things when I could have reached out. And I’ve noticed that we all are just so busy with everything going on in our lives and families, that it is overwhelming to think about doing one more thing. I met a friend for coffee last week, and she kept thanking me for making time for her. It wasn’t a burden, and I was happy for a night out (I’m sure I was blessed more than she was) but it got me thinking about how busy our lives become to the point that so often we don’t have time for a cup of coffee with a friend. Thanks!
Comment by HW — August 7, 2008 @ 9:17 pm
Heidi:
The last sentence in your comment (#8).
Comment by TheNorEaster — August 7, 2008 @ 9:48 pm
That’s what i thought Nor. Thanks for clarifying.
Comment by HW — August 7, 2008 @ 9:50 pm