expectations and assumptions
What do you do with people’s expectations and assumptions of you? Especially when the expectations are unrealistic, and the assumptions false?
Foolish
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Try and correct them in a loving way. If not well, email me
It certainly depends upon how close I am to the person.
With those I don’t know well, earlier in life I tried to “make myself clear” but lately I’ve determined to let the Lord deal with the misunderstandings. If He gives me the go-ahead then I’ll share my understanding in love.
With people I am close to, I pray lots and work to restore understanding.
I think you just gave me an idea for my post next week, Heidi!
I’d like to say I let it all run off my back, but that isn’t really true (yet).
I have lived under weighty expectations most of my life, and it made me a driven over-achiever. I have only recently begun to relax and enjoy life.
As to the false assumptions…I’m better than I used to be, but I often obsess about how to “explain myself” to people. Sometimes I actually try to do it, sometimes I don’t. Sometimes, by the hand of the Lord, I have been put into the position of having to let it go and let people think whatever the heck they want to think. In other words, let the false assumption stand and just go move forward. Having to do that several times has helped me see that I don’t *always* have to explain myself.
I have higher expectations of myself than other people do of me so expectations are never an issue. As far as assumptions go, let me put it to you this way. As a cop, I look at and hear negativity pretty mucy my whole day. I finally came to the conclusion several years ago that people generally don’t like to take responsibility for their own actions and in today’s economy, they need to displace their own faults on others as an escape mechanism. That has helped me realize that other peoples assumptions of me don’t amount to a hill of beans.
i trip them
on accident
of course
Red… you’ll come and yell at them?
Michelle… that makes a lot of sense. It really does make a difference how close of a relationship it is.
NE… Cool! I can’t wait to read it.
Jeff… I want that ability to let it all run off! I haven’t been explaining myself, but sometimes I sure want to! I wish it didn’t bother me for people to think things about me. It is bad enough when it is truth… but when they are wrong, it really bugs me! Thanks!
Mike… I can’t imagine how many things you deal with every day. I’m pretty sure I couldn’t do your job! I suppose you would have to get to the point where things wouldn’t bother you. Thanks!
Tam…
Too funny!
“Interesting sleight of hand there, Tam,” said the exhausted fellow who was up two days past his bedtime. “Most people say ‘BY accident’ and ‘ON purpose.’ You ain’t foolin’ me, kid!”
Might take a little longer for me to complete that post I had mentioned earlier. But it’s getting there! Don’t worry!
sarcasm… lots of it
then I go home and complain to my husband and he talks some sense into me!
and he loves me anyway
7catz… sarcasm does help!
And husbands!